Oh hey 2013 and hey, its been a while.
I've been a little distant haven't I? I'm sorry, actually i'm not that sorry as i'm sure you haven't missed my ramblings. However I just needed some time. 2012 had its little ups and serious downs and I'm so pleased 2013 is here. So far, it's treated me well but I think that's all down to my own frame of mind and way of thinking. I've had time to sit with my little pink pen and my paperchase journal writing things down, and really coming to conclusions about stuff. See, even after not blogging for 3 months, I still make no sense at all. Below is what I think I have concluded.
1. Life is short and you only get one.
I know this is cliche and its so easy to say but when you actually stop and think....this is the only chance we have. It's up to us to enjoy ourselves, make something of ourselves and make a change. I spent far too much of my time in 2012 being miserable, with a sour face and a sour mind set that I didn't achieve much. To be honest, most of the year was a waste and I can't actually remember any amazing points which makes me really sad. All I can remember is the bad stuff, and why? That's such a horrible way to think. In fact it's selfish, really selfish. I spent far too much time worrying about me. Poor me, poor me, pour me a drink.
2. Bitterness and Hate.
"Whenever one finds oneself inclined to bitterness, it is a sign of emotional failure". Now although this quote is pretty daunting, it couldn't have given me the shock that I needed. I come to realize that the more bitter I became, the more I lost who I was. I became a negative, envious and insecure person and lost the positive smiley (although always looking miserable) girl that I am. I am pleased to say that there were many things helping me along the way but the one main thing I did was stand up to myself, notice where I had let myself go wrong and started new. So far, so good. I am enjoying life a lot more now and feel back to my usual self. Be your own best friend as opposed to your own worst enemy.
3. Give at least one compliment each day.
A 92 year old lady visited the office the other day and having been introduced to her by name, a wave and a smile only, she has somewhat become my favorite person all week. She has been sending me kisses to catch and keep in my pocket and has asked to become my new great grandmother. Now to those that find this a little creepy, I don't blame you, but for me I find it comforting and it really has made my week. She is a little darling (plus she loves shopping). So that's made me come to realize that it really is worth giving people a compliment. I mean, if you like the shoes on the lady who held the door open for you, tell her. Make someones day.
4. Ask for help.
Whatever you're going through, someone has been through before, and come out the other side. You don't need to re-invent the wheel but don't be afraid to ask someone for advice or help, it will make a huge difference sharing experiences with someone.
5. Make a little extra effort every day.
Your definition of "effort" will vary. But this could be wearing a bow on your head, wearing bright coloured socks or even taking the time to sit down with a book before bed instead of instagram. Just pick something everyday that you know will make you feel good and do it. Cause it will.
6. Take yourself on dates.
As weird as this one sounds as well, it works. We all have days where we just want to be alone, have some me time, some gossip girl and tea time. But why does it always have to be indoors? Get dressed up and go to the local town for a coffee and blog. Eat a delicious lunch by the river and take lots of photo's. Ride your bike through the city and make the best dinner you possibly can. You deserve your love as much as anyone else does.
7. Wear a tiara and take a bath.